The art of maintaining a positive attitude

I sat the other day and had a little ponder on the matter of maintaining a positive attitude as you age. I think that feeling sorry for yourself is responsible for killing off more seniors than the mechanical failure of major body parts. Not to worry though, I think I have the cure, get up off your (in more cases than not) ample posterior and do something!

Loneliness is one of the horrors of old age. Why are so many seniors lonely? One of the most common answers I get when I inquire is, “I have no one, my friends are all dead, my family is grown and gone.” If you have no one or no family — then go get some. You built your family, you found someone to love, you had children and you raised them. You started from scratch and built it. You can do it again. You weren’t born with friends, you made them.

You can do it again. There are all kinds of families out there just waiting for you to join them. You can do it again. Go to the nearest senior center, they love old people. Go to the nearest hospital or nursing home and volunteer. Churches are family units willing to welcome new members. I go to The New Baltimore Reformed Church and we’d love to have you join us. Churches are always looking for new members and always have some useful work that needs doing. Fire companies are another good community family unit. Schools are always looking for seniors to work one on one with children who need help.

You can still be useful and there’s a lot of love out there just waiting for you. It’ll take some effort but do it. If your body doesn’t work as well as it once did, find an activity that will keep your mind active. Laura Ingalls Wilder didn’t become an author until she was in her sixties and was nagged into doing it by a daughter who loved her. Maybe you can’t run fast any more or you have arthritis and your hands don’t work so well any more, you can still do something useful. My friend said to me the other day, “If you wake up in the morning and nothing hurts, lay down ‘cause you’re dead.”

So if it hurts, you’re still alive and life is good but like the lottery, “You got to be in it to win it.” Don’t be one of those sad souls sitting in a dark room somewhere waiting for the Grim Reaper to visit, there’s a lot of fun and companionship waiting out there for you to enjoy, all you have to do is go looking for it. You can do it again!

Thought for the week — “If it were the other way around, I doubt that a cat would take in 23 old ladies.”

Until next week, may you and yours be happy and well.

Reach Dick Brooks at

Johnson Newspapers 7.1


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