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Ashland Speaks: Civility and wearing another’s shoes

October 31, 2018 11:34 am Updated: October 31, 2018 11:46 am


Happy Halloween to all of the ghoulies and ghosties out there. Remember the fun we had picking out the costumes that we were going to wear? The hours spent going through the old clothes pile and trying to make a decision about what would look best? Should I wear this flannel shirt and be a cowpoke, maybe a farmer or a scarecrow. The girls would pick out the prettiest dress and go as a princess or a fairy. Maybe dress in a short skirt and make believe I’m a baby again. Hobos were always a good choice as you could tie your candy up on a stick so you didn’t have to carry a pillowcase or bag around. The ubiquitous white sheet always appeared on someone for a ghostly surprise. The sound of a limb brushing against the side of a house was always heard as something sneaking up on you. Wind rustling the leaves? No, I think that’s a ghost following us. The thrill of being allowed out after dark and going from house to house collecting candy and treats from “strangers.” Oh, how I long for those simpler days with simple pleasures.

One of the perks from the Class of 1968’s picnic was old friends getting together. Fortunately, it didn’t entirely end there. Patti Wieninger Lawyer played golf at Christman’s with Larry Thompson and his wife, Claudia. Then, the following week, she went to Brandywine with a bunch of golfing buddies who were going down south for the winter. There, she ran into Skip Newcomb, who gladly picked up the tab for her meal, being she bought the chicken for the barbecue. Skip invited her to take a tour of his new house, which she gladly accepted. It’s good to hear about friendships being reformed.

Turkeys, turkeys, turkeys! Everywhere you go, you see turkeys. A dozen of them were seen running down Route 23C this morning from Route 17 in Jewett. Destination: Bird feeder on Hudecek’s lawn. Whatever the birds and squirrels knocked down to the ground, the turkeys were cleaning up. All left except one lone soldier. David said to fatten her up for Thanksgiving dinner. Hmmm.

Vicky Beckmann and I went to the Mt. Top Golden Agers meeting last Thursday. Coming home on Route 296 at the intersection of 23C, we saw what appeared to be a black dog sitting alongside the road. Vicky slowed down to see if the owner was around, or if the dog had a collar, and it wasn’t a dog, but a tiny bear cub sitting and chomping on a bush. The cub just sat and ate, oblivious to traffic. No sign of mom, but we did NOT get out to look.

There was a smaller than usual turnout for Ashland Fire Department’s Haunted House this past weekend. I’m sure the weather kept many people indoors, and with the prediction for snow, sleet and freezing rain, many did not want to chance it. Don’t forget that it will still be going on this weekend. Please come and be scared.

The Order of Eastern Star is having a busy time with fundraisers. Their annual fruit sale is being held. Orders for oranges and grapefruit are being taken. Grapefruit are $21, oranges $24 and combo half grapefruit, half orange $25. Orders must be in by Nov. 26. Contact a member to place your order.

Then, on Dec. 1, the OES will be holding their Annual Christmas Bazaar and Chinese Auction. They will also be having a basket raffle. Doors open at 10 a.m., numbers for the Chinese Auction will be called at 3 p.m. Chili and potato soup will be on sale for lunch. The event will take place at the Masonic Lodge Main Street Windham. Hope to see you there.

On Nov. 14, The Columbia-Greene Women’s luncheon will be held at Pegasus in Coxsackie from 11:30 a.m.-1 p.m. The Autumn Gathering will feature Susan Chan who will be sharing information on Lyme’s disease. Cost is $12.50 and reservations are a must. Call Ruth at 518-634-7405.

The Windham Hensonville Rummage sale was held last weekend. They had so many treasures that they will be selling again on Saturday morning from 9 a.m.-1 p.m. This will be a $3 bag sale. Start practicing putting things in a bag so you get your money’s worth. If you’ve never been to a rummage sale, you are missing out on one of the greatest treasure hunts ever. Judy and John were out and about with sons David and Jay on Friday, and got to Windham about 4:20 p.m. The first thing was the Rummage Sale Regulars commenting on the arrival time. Noreen, Frannie, Linda, Ulana, all commenting about the lateness. David had never been rummaging, and went to the Far East collection. David is big on Sake, rice and Oriental foods. He picked up a lovely Sake set, a set of “something” for Jay for Christmas. Upon checking out, Jackie and Linda said it was $8. Thinking that was just one item, David checked his cash and said OK. Imagine his delight when he found out it was for everything! For $40, the back of the RAV4 was loaded, and plans to attend next year’s sales were being made. I always say, it’s not the items for sale, but the fun of picking them out, and getting together with friends while doing it.


Janet Hudecek thanks everyone for their prayers, but she is still a patient in Albany Med. When she fell, she not only broke a rib, but the bruising caused a build up of blood and fluid which had to be drained. Hopefully she will be going to rehab soon.

Ruth Blumenthal from Prattsville is now a short term resident of Robinson Terrace.

Reggie Cross and Clarence Soule need healing prayers.

Art Rood (husband of Joyce Dart) could use prayers. Keep Joyce in your prayers as she has so much to contend with. George Dart is undergoing a new treatment plan and needs prayers.

As always, please keep Larry Partridge in mind, along with prayers to keep Wanda strong.

Get better every day, Ruth Schnelaus.


Nov. 2 Thanksgiving Dinner at Hope Restoration

Nov. 3 Time to Fall back. Reset your clocks

Nov. 3 Ben Franklin Comes to Coxsackie 2 p.m. Red’s Restaurant $25

Nov. 3 Ya Ya’s Fall Bazaar at the Greek Church of the Assumption Route 23 Windham

Nov. 6 Election Day

Nov. 6 Chicken and Biscuits at Ashland church

Nov. 7 Ecumenical Windham Hensonville UMC 11 a.m.

Nov. 9 Historical presentation The Catskill Mountain House 7 p.m. Windham UMC

Nov. 13 Interfaith Council at Synagogue in Hunter

Nov. 14 Columbia-Greene Woman’s Luncheon Pegasus 11:30 a.m.-1 p.m.

Dec. 1 Christmas Bazaar and Chinese Auction Masonic Temple benefit Order of Eastern Star

Dec. 6 WAJPL Holiday Luncheon 1 p.m. Windham Country Club



As Thanksgiving approaches, I am always reminded of the family dinners. Last week, I taught a class in Lexington on God’s Mission - Our Journey; exploring God’s World and their customs. We talked about wearing (fitting into) other peoples’ shoes. In the past, in most households, the father was always seated at the head of the table, mother at the foot. No one started to eat until all were present and NO ONE was late. We sat down together and ate together. Before we even picked up a fork, father asked the blessing, and then mother started passing around the dishes, and everyone took a little of each dish before passing it on to the next person. In some families, father had all of the plates and food in front of him, and he put a little of each dish on every plate and passed them down. There was never any complaint. We ate what was being served. We conversed while we ate. No deep subjects were presented, we ate slowly and enjoyed the food and the family being together.

While at the class, we learned from a mission in Africa that meals were served in one large dish set in the center and everyone ate from a section of the dish.

In the Syrian household, the man picked out the menu. He told his wife what he wanted for each meal. Lamb is a big staple.

It seems that wherever one goes, whenever there was a holiday, the houses would be overflowing with family and friends. Food is always plentiful to share, talk and friendship abounds. The home has traditionally been the center of the family unit. Meals were the one chance to sit down and discuss your day with the ones you love the most.

What has happened to that? We come home to an empty house. Our children are busy being busy. But are they actually accomplishing anything? The phone, tablet and computer has taken over physical contact. Who is calling the shots now?

Oh My! Not only is November filling up, it’s time to announce your December activities. Send to, call me at 518-734-5360 — Lula